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It is important for a man to understand the qualities and attributes of a woman before he was considered as a wife.
Reported in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad, from Sa `d ibn Abi Waqqas Radliallahu anhu, that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“Three for the happiness of Adam and three children that causes suffering. The cause of the happiness the children of Adam are: (1) a good wife, (2) good house, and (3) Good vehicles. It causes suffering: an ugly wife, house bad and bad vehicles. ”
Also reported in Saheeh al-Jaami ‘that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“Four things that cause happiness: (1) a good wife, (2) good house, (3) good neighbor, and (4) Good vehicles. Four things that cause suffering: bad wife, bad neighbors, ugly vehicles and houses narrow / small. ”
Very important and necessary for a man to see a woman who could be a good wife and good mother to her children (the future). In another hadith narrated that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“The World (live in this world) is a fun and best of pleasures in this world is a good wife (sholehah).” (Sahih Muslim, Book 14, Chapter 17, Hadith No. 1467)
It is now difficult to find a good wife because she is a property rarely found. It was narrated in Sunan Abu Dawud, Ibn ‘Abbas Radliallahu anhu, that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam was asked by Umar ibn al-Khattab Radliallahu anhu:
“I’ll inform you of the best assets a person can get, which is a good wife (shalehah). When he (her husband) saw it she would make her happy, and when he ruled it would be docile and when he left (away from the husband) will be keep him. ”
This hadith is a clear statement that the good wife is one (1) which makes the heart glad and happy to see her husband when her husband, (2) obey her husband when he was ordered to do something, and (3) protect her virtue, the secret, the family (child – child) and his property when the husband was not there at his side.
Shohih narrated in al-Jaami ‘that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“A grateful heart, verbal remembrance of Allah and the good wife (zaujah shalihah) that will help you in matters of life and religion, this is the best property that can be possessed by human beings.”
It is important for a woman who would become your wife and help you establish dien (religion) has the properties and quality before you consider / decide to marry.
God asks us to marry a good man, and devoted shalehah:
“And Marry those among you sedirian, and those eligible (spouse) from sahayamu slaves male and sahayamu servants were women. If they are poor Allah will enable them with His Grace. And Allah is vast (giving him), the Knower. ” (Surah An-Nur: 32)
In another verse, Allah the Exalted says Subhaanahu Wa about the nature of women Jannah (Paradise):
“Because it is a pious woman, who is obedient to God again to maintain themselves when her husband was not there, because God has kept (them).” (Surah An-Nisaa ‘: 34)
Shalihat means they are good religious woman. Qaanitaat means they obedient to her husband. And lil Haafizaat Ghaib means they keep the property, wealth, children and so when her husband left her husband.
Reported in ath-Thabraani Mu’jam al-Kabiir and Saheeh al-Jaami ‘, from’ Abdullah ibn Salaam Radliallahu anhu that the Prophet Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“The best woman is a pleasant woman you when you see it, obey you when you command, take care of herself (purity) and the property you in your absence.”
Women who are obedient (obedient) to Allah, His Messenger, and her husband is no doubt he deserves a silken garments. Reported in Musnad al-Imaam Ahmad that the Prophet Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“If a woman establish prayer 5 time, fasting in the month of Ramadan, maintaining her purity and her husband obey, they will say to him (in court today), go to the heaven from the door you like.”
Therefore, the properties of a good woman who has been mentioned by Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala and His Rosul are:
* Shaalihat, they perform and have dien dien / good faith
* Qaanitaat (mutii’aat), obedient to her husband as long as he was not ordered to not obey God.
* Maintain themselves when her husband was not there
* Maintain property, wealth and children, husbands
* Happy heart husband (ie actively to love and socialize with him)
Reported that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“Women (in general) be married for 4 things: because of his wealth, because of its status, because of her beauty and because of his religion. Choose a good woman of his religion, then your hands will be filled with sand (good).” (Sahih Muslim, Hadith No. 1466)
Taribat Yadaak (so your hands will be filled with sand) means that if someone chooses a woman who has a good dien in their marriage then they will be filled with hands good and they keep themselves from something that is not pleasant to live.
If a woman has a good religion, then he will bring peace at home and will lead to happiness to her husband. He will be a land that gave birth to children who are good and they will inherit its properties and characters. However, if he deviates so her children will inherit a bad character and personality, the marriage would have disastrous failure, as for the husband will fail to fulfill what God commanded Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala is to choose a good woman.
A good woman will always adjust to what he says to do, he is the guardian of her husband’s wealth, secret, honor and reputation. His reputation as a good woman will bring honor to the family.
No doubt, the beauty, character, personality, faith and religion beyond its physical beauty and face visible. It will stay forever. As if the beauty of the face will change (that is worn from age factor) only in the size of the year.
For akhlaqnya bad woman, if she was older then he will try to convince himself that he was still young and felt like the women teenager. He will not have time to read the Qur’an, taking care of children or even her husband. Instead he will be in front of the glass, using make-up, and tried to hide wrinkles and stains on his face.
A good woman, will always remember the responsibility of her husband and obligations to God. He will always remind her to pray, encouraged him to preach and support the jihad and do their duties without being asked. If both the husband her husband will meet his needs, and watched him, he’ll never glance at another woman since his wife tied up in his heart.
Abdullah bin Rawaahah Radliallahu anhu has a black slave. He never hit her and then she felt guilty for having done. He then went to the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam and told him what had happened. The Prophet said to Abdullah about his character description. Abdullah told the Prophet Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam that he (female slave) fasting, praying and saying Laa ilaaha. Prophet Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam asked, “Which means he is a believer.” Abdullah Radliallahu anhu said, “I will go to free him and marry him.”
There are some people who began denouncing Abdullah for marrying a slave woman, because they are often looked at those who disbelieve for them to marry. Allah Ta’ala Wa Subhaanahu then lowered paragraph:
“And do not marry women idolaters, until they believe. Verily the slave woman who believes is better than a woman polytheists, even though she allures you.” (Surat al-Baqarah, 2:221)
Reported also that this verse was revealed in respect of black women under the authority of Hudaifah bin al-Yaman Radliallahu anhu. Hudaifah said to Khansaa ‘, a slave woman: “O Khansaa’, God has said about you. Therefore, I will set you free, then marry you.”
In this verse is the main subject of good faith. Body or facial beauty is subjective each person. Some people like the woman with a sharp nose, others like a woman with a short nose. Some people also like the wide-eyed woman, as for others more interested in the slant-eyed woman. Some men like big women, others like the slim. Some of them like short women, others like a high. So the beauty of it depends on the eyes that see. Are generality every man likes a woman a good religion, personality and character? Or more like a beautiful woman out there but he likes swearing, shouting and having a bad character?
Reported in The Messenger Shohih Bukhori Salallahu Blessings of Allaah be wasallam said:
“Three people who will get a double reward:
(1) A person from among the People of the Book (Jews or Christians) who believe in his prophet (Jesus or Moses) and believe in Muhammad Salallahu Blessings of Allaah be wasallam (ie Islam).
(2) A slave who fulfill their obligations to God and also to the employer.
(3) An employer (slave owners) who have a slave woman and taught her the best way (dien / religion), release him and then marry her. For him (the employer) will get 2 reward. ”
(Book of Science, Chapter 31, Hadith No. 97).
The best couples in this life is a woman of faith (Muslim) religion with kindness then he will be able to help her husband to pursue a life in accordance with Islam.
A good wife is like Khadijah bint Khuwaylid radi anhu, the Prophet’s wife Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam, believing women as people mengkufurinya; believe it when people do not believe it; accept what he says when people deny it; protect it when he needed it; help when people try to harm. Khadija with him in a difficult life and love.
A good woman is like Asma bint Abu Bakr radi anhu, the woman who is proud of his religion. She sends her son to the streets of heaven with the martyrs, and she encouraged him to stand firm in front of Evil to death with a glorious death.
A good wife is like Safia bint Abd al-Muttalib radi anhu, who was busy women to the battlefield to fight the Jews who wanted to attack the honor of those who believe.
A good wife is like Sahaabiyyah Khansaa ‘radi anhu, the woman who sends all his sons who numbered 4 to go jihad. When news came that the four sons martyrs, he said: “Thank God for having made them all the martyrs and I pray that I can meet them in court later today!”
A good wife is Waluud that means he wants to have a child. He is not someone who says, “I want to keep my appearance and do not want to have children.” A good wife is someone who wants to have many children.
Salallahu Prophet Blessings of Allaah be wasallam said:
“Marry and perbanyaklah children, actually I will boast in the day ye court.” (Saheeh al-Jaami ‘, Hadith No. 3366)
So the purpose of marriage is not only for enjoyment but also to continue the human race.
Subhaanahu Wa Allah Ta’ala says:
“Wealth and children are the jewels of the world’s life, but the practices of the pious is eternal again better with your Lord in reward and better for the hope.” (Surat al-Kahf: 46)
God Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala also says:
“Made good on the (view) of human devotion to what is desired, namely women, children, property that many of the types of gold, silver, horses, cattle and rice fields. This is the pleasure of life in world, and in the sight of Allah is a fine return (heaven). ” (Surah Ali Imran: 14)
There are many things that desired by human beings: women, children, gold, silver (wealth), horses and so on, but what God gave us in the Hereafter is far better.
In a letter to say that Mary, peace be upon him Zakariyyah pleaded to God:
“He said: ‘My Lord, my bones have been weakened and my head has grown gray, and I’ve never been disappointed in prayer to thee, my Lord. And I fear for mawaliku after me, being a wife is barren, so give me the Thine a son who will inherit me and inherit some of Jacob’s family; and make him, my Lord, one who approves. ” (Surah Maryam: 4-6)
So why get married is to have a child. This is why very important for women to understand this before he got married, that he expected to have a child, not to complete their education or learn to drive.
If he does not know how to cook, clean, wash or sew, do not also want to have children, then to what he as a wife?
A good woman is a gentle, wise and gentle. When her husband spoke to him, he did not argue or shout back at him. Had he a wife, he is not a wrestler or boxer.
A good believer, a good husband and good wife would ask, and beg to God that blessed child sholeh:
“And those people who say: Our Lord, we anugrahkanlah to our wives and our offspring the comfort hearts (we), and make us a priest for those who fear Allah.” (Surat al-Furqan: 74)
Even the angels beristighfar and ask forgiveness of God for man, his wife and children and make them happy:
“Our Lord, and insert them into heaven ‘Eden which thou hast promised to them and the people who works among their fathers, and their wives, and their descendants all. Surely You are the Mighty Wise. ” (Surah Al-Mu’min: 
Pleasures of the world is a wife and children. If a woman can not bear children because she was sick so this is not his power. But if he really wanted to have children so he is a good woman of his religion. He did not have a beautiful (in accordance with the view of some people), but he was able to captivate her husband with her character and personality. Instead of using her beauty but in every time he spoke in a voice like George Bush or Khaddafi.
Reported in Sunan Abu Dawood, that a man came to Prophet Muhammad Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam and said to him, “I love a good woman’s name (status) is beautiful, but can not have kids. Do you recommend me to marry him? ” Prophet Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said, “Do not.” The man came back 2 times but every opportunity Salallahu Prophet Blessings of Allaah be wasallam replied, “Do not.” After the third time the Prophet Salallahu Blessings of Allaah be wasallam said:
“Marry a woman who waduud (obedient, afraid of the husband) and waluud (can have children). I ‘ll make you (on the day of court).” (Sunan Abu Dawud, Kitabun Nikaah, Hadith No. 2050)
Waluud woman is able to have children and have good health. Usually if his mother or his aunt had a child a lot then he will be able to have children, too.
Waduud woman is a wise woman and good to her husband. She smiled at him, talk with wise and wants him to be bahaga. He will smile with love and affection.
Reported in the hadeeth of al-Bukhori that the Messenger of Allah Blessings of Allaah be Salallahu wasallam said:
“Among all the women who rode camels (ie Arab women); woman from Banu Quraish are the best. They are loving and kind to their children and the best keeper in the property of their husbands.” (Al-Bukhari, Book 60, Chapter 46, Hadith No. 3434)
Blessings of Allaah be wasallam Salallahu Prophet described them as the best because they are gentle and kind to their children and will automatically be loved and blessed their husbands.
A good woman is the guardian and protector of treasures and secrets of their husbands. What he said to him personally, he was not supposed to publicize or tell temannnya.
Easy to get a good husband now, but not easy to get a good wife.
A good wife will follow the opinion of (legal) from her husband, not with their own opinions. He’s not going to tell him, “You can celebrate this day I’ed, but I’ll celebrate tomorrow.”
A husband will never live in peace if married to a woman who lost her religion, a Habashi, Deobandi or Tahriiri. This is why so important for him to marry a woman who followed the understanding of Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jama’ah (follow the prophet and his companions).
Both ideally have the same religion and aqidah (belief) the same. If a wife believe that God is above the ‘His Throne, while her husband believe that God exists everywhere, then there will always be disagreement and debate arguments, as for marriage will not be able to make cooperation between the two.
Religion is good not just to pray or fast. If a man has a good religion, he would believe that Jews and Christians are infidels, and if a woman has a bad religion and he will say that they are people who believe.
Furthermore, these women will send their children to secular state schools, where their minds will be poisoned with Kufr thoughts.
If a man married to a woman or a perpetrator Barelwi heresy then his wife would teach their children to worship the graves and ask for help from people who had died.
Subhaanahu Wa Allah Ta’ala says:
“And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu itself, so you tend to be and feel reassured him, and made him think of you love and affection. Verily in this is really a sign signs for people who think. ” (Surah Ar-Rum: 21)
How is it possible there will be peace in the marriage when his wife pressed him to buy her new clothes, new, high-heeled shoes, handbags and jewelry items every day? Every day he took me hours to bermake-up (trimmed) and when he commented about one thing then he will make her sad life. That is not the nature of a wife should.
She needs to gain the love of her husband and wanted to reach heaven via obedient to her husband. She would cook for him, cleaning the clothes, ironing clothes and preparing food. He was not a slave or servant, but this is the normal role of a wife.
Salallahu Prophet Blessings of Allaah be wasallam said:
“I will inform you about the women of Paradise! (They are) waduud (affectionate and love to their husbands), waluud (fertility) and beneficial. If he had said goodbye to you then he will say,” Here, my hand is in your hands. I can not sleep until you’re happy. ” (Shohih al-Jaami ‘)
This hadith describes a woman Jannah (Paradise) is described as someone who will not go to bed (after saying good-bye to her husband) until she took her hand and said, “I’ll go to bed until you pleasure for me.” Or until he was forgiven. Where this type of woman today? Now, if the husband said goodbye to his wife so she would tell him go to hell and make him sleep in the garden.
Blessings of Allaah be wasallam Salallahu Prophet advised his followers to marry a virgin woman. This concept gives the pressure for a woman’s right to consider a divorce because she will know that it will be difficult for him to marry again.
This is one way that Islam protects the family: a wife can not run just because he does not have a television (for example) because he knows that divorce is a taboo in marriage.
Currently, if a husband trying to discipline his wife advised the wife would yell at him or think that her husband tried to control it.
Furthermore, if he (her husband) said goodbye to his wife so she would not accompany him because he went to see the TV and saw another man she likes.
In the past, a mother comforting her daughter, “Be a servant / slave, then he will be your servant. Be land, and he will be akarmu.”
I pray to God I hope these lessons can give light on the criteria for selecting a good partner. Always consider the good of religion because people who know the law of the Shari’a And he will also know where the lawful and the unlawful.
